Femininity a Sacrafice?

Bartky starts her argument by sayinf a woman has to make sacrifices to be a feminist. They have to change everything they are for the cause. They have to play the victim of sexism for their cause and I think this is wrong. I understand her argument about being a victim, after all if there were not some sort of injustice their would be no cause, but to "radically alter our consciousness"? I believe in equal treatment of women and if I ever find myself in a situation where I am discriminated against because I am a woman you can bet that I will fight the injustice. Forgive me woman kind but I will not however lose all sense if myself in that fight. I believe that every woman has a right to act how they want in regards to feminist behaviors. The book talks about women being alienated from their bodies to be objectified and I think this only happens when a woman allows it to. This fight for equal treatment starts with each and every women acting responsibly and deserving respect. If respect is not commanded through action by a majority of individuals the whole gender will suffer the unfairness. The book does not account for, at least in the reading I have done so far, every woman acting responsible in society to better the world view of what a woman is. Feminists may fight for the cause but until all women act for themselves I do not think the injustice will go away.